Bullying ; the use of force, threat, to abuse intimidate or aggressively to impose domination over others
For the very first time in my life I got the opportunity to sit down and have an interview with what some would call a bully, a monster an abandoned child, what this interview won't allow you to see is the young man who sat across from me in Starbucks was none of that but just a child who seemed to be misunderstood Jordan is 10 years old and attends Middle Oak Elementary school. Jordan's mother was very kind enough to join in on this interview.
Q: Hi, Jordan how are you ?How was your day today?
A: Hi, I'm Fine and It was okay pretty boring
Q: What do you like to do for fun ?
A: Come home from school, watch tv, play 2k with my cousins when I go to my aunts and go on the computer.
Q: What's your favorite T.V show ?
A: Spongebob and 106 & Park I could watch it all day if I was allowed to.
Q: Why aren't you allowed to watch it all day?
A: I have to go to school that's why
Q: Do you like school ?
A: Sometimes but most of the time no I wish I didn't have to go and I could stay home all day.
Q: Why don't you like school?
A: No one likes me there and I have no friends.
At this very moment you could see Jordan's attitude change.
Q: Do you know why no one likes you ?
A: Everyone thinks I'm mean and a bully but I'm not mean or a bully, I'm just keeping it real that's what people want for you to be real.
Q: Have you ever made someone cry ? Did it make you feel bad?
A: Yeah lots of times, and yeah it does make me feel bad I don't mean it I'm just playing no one knows that.
Q: Why doesn't anyone know that ?
A: They never ask me.
I started to ask Hydee a couple of questions
Q: How do you feel about what Jordan said about no one liking him?
A: Honestly Jordan is a sweet kid I feel he is misunderstood as a single parent there's only so much I can do. I've tried everything one on one talks, punishments anything a parent can do I've done. There's only so much doing until you give up. I expect the phone calls home two to three times a week and the detention slips, I'm use to it.
Q: Why are you use to it ?
A: I just don't feel Jordan will ever change and once people view you a certain way that's it that's how you're viewed in their eyes. I know my son that's all that matters.
Q: Tell me about one of Jordan's incidents at school ?
A: Jordan had gotten into a fight with this girl in he's 4th grade class. Before the fight happened he's teachers called me and told me he was picking on this girl calling her names throwing paper at her. I confronted Jordan took away the video games everything seemed to be okay for a couple of days, till Jordan took her glasses during lunch and broke them in half and that's how the fight began.
Q: So what did you do about it ?
A: Nothing I spoke to him and he couldn't watch tv for a week Jordan got suspended for 2 days. Sometimes I feel I'm to blame for the way he acts out.
Finally I was getting somewhere
Q: Why do you feel your to blame?
A: I'm not around a lot I work from 7 to 7 and sometimes I pull a double, everyone thinks I'm raising some sort of monster and that's not even the case I'm just not around a lot. I know who Jordan really is the person everyones making him out to be isn't who my son is. No ones child is perfect mines isn't and I've come to accept that I'm trying to get him into some extra activities after school and someone to talk. I've given up but I haven't given up totally I know the person my son can be.
-The names and schools are made up to fit the privacy of the parent and child
